Threesome sex is a sensitive topic and causes mixed reactions from many. Some shout “Fu!”, The second silently blush (because it is a shame to admit that they want to), and the third are ready to rush off the bat to dance tango together. Today we will talk about two common reasons for such fantasies and learn how to indirectly fulfill a desire without harming the relationship.
The burden of moral bonds
No matter how often we are told that only monogamy can be considered an acceptable norm, in fact, everything is much more complicated. The indisputable fact is that some people are naturally polygamous. One partner is not enough for them, they can even sincerely, deeply and tenderly love (in a good sense of the word) several people at the same time. I am impressed by the postulate that adults and mentally healthy people, by mutual consent, are free to do whatever they want in their bedroom. At least walk on the ceiling naked, at least arrange orgies. Their intimate life is their own business. And there is no need to get up into beautiful poses and roll your eyes to the sky, branding polygamous couples.
The concepts of “norm” and “morality” were invented by people like you and me. Times change, and moral standards change. In some cultures, polygamy is considered commonplace, especially in cases where there are many more representatives of one sex in society than of the opposite. This is a forced measure aimed (often without realizing this fact) at preserving the species. Now take a look at our society: there are more women than men, but the difference is not so striking. Hence the monogamous view of relationships. Do not be afraid, I will not encroach on the moral bonds of most people and I will not urge everyone to immediately do the tee. Leaving aside the question of polygamy – this is a separate topic for conversation. Today we’ll talk about why a monogamous partner suddenly has thoughts about having sex with several people.
Was there a boy?
In most cases, the true cause remains unclear. People are either ashamed of their fantasy and try to chase it away, or silently dream (not to mention the partner), or offer the partner to have threesome sex. The first two options are psychologically agonizing, while the third can be an extremely unpleasant experience. And what can you do in order not to suffer, but to enjoy yourself without being ashamed of your desires? For this it is necessary to analyze the reason for such fantasies. And it lies in the fact that a person simply does not have enough sensations and stimulation of erogenous zones. And, you see, there is nothing shameful and immoral in the desire for additional caresses. Of course, our brain quickly offers us the option of fulfilling desire in the form of threesome sex.
When dreams crash against harsh reality
I am not encouraging you to have threesome sex, but I am not dissuading you from it either. If both you and your partner are mentally ready for this, go for it. Your body is your business. However, do not forget that threesome sex with a regular partner (when there are feelings and obligations in the relationship) can cause moral trauma. Moreover, reality is not like fantasy. It is in porn that seasoned actors can do everything, and even work according to a ready-made script. In reality, the trio may delight or dislike. First, find the reason for your desires before you say to a dear person: “Let’s invite the third superfluous into our bedroom.”
Bright orgasm without awkwardness
Do you need threesome sex if you can replace it with something less dangerous? Do you already understand what kind of lifesaver I’m talking about? Yes, about sex toys for orgasm! As mentioned above, there is often a desire for more pleasure behind the trio dreams. A man or woman cannot physically caress all the erogenous zones of a partner at the same time. We are not Indian multi-armed gods. But here all kinds of stimulants for couples come to the rescue. Explore the varieties of such devices and choose the ones that suit your desires. For example, there are vacuum nipple and clitoris stimulators and even devices that simulate the movements of the tongue during oral sex. Listen to what your fantasy whispers to you and look for those analogs among sex toys that will help you experience the desired sensations. And one more nuance that can generate craving for a trio is voyeurism. If a person has a desire to observe intimacy from the outside, it is not at all necessary to arrange a tango for the three of us. It is enough to install a large mirror opposite the bed of love. Instead of suppressing your fantasies, analyze them. Understanding your desires will help you get rid of moral dilemmas by making your dreams come true without negative consequences. Love you, mutual understanding and an unforgettable intimate experience!