85% of men over 30 had a situation where in bed he could not be aroused or an erection was weakened and full penetration failed. It happens, it’s hard to fix. But in such a situation, a woman needs to react correctly. What to do in order not to offend him and not destroy the relationship?
Men age and libido
Statistics say that the older a man, the more often he “misfires”. At 30 years, these are isolated cases, at 60 years – moments that can develop in 17-34% of sexual intercourse. Therefore, any woman can face a similar problem, it is better to prepare for her in advance.
The reason for the unsuccessful attempt often lies in moments with intimacy that are not connected at all. For example, stress, lack of sleep, or unhealthy diet can hurt arousal. Still man’s power is affected by mood, fatigue, bad habits. And an important factor is the fear of screwing up a partner.
What to do when the penis does not rise
The rules of conduct are very simple, you do not need to injure a person, support a man in such a piquant situation. What actions would be appropriate?
Give up many attempts. If it didn’t work out, but he still has enthusiasm, then arrange a long foreplay. Erotic massage, long kisses, hugs. This will help him relax, help him find strength. But if he already does not want anything, there is no need to insist and make more attempts. The more there are, the more difficult it is for a man to come to terms with the situation. Be close. Do not leave, do not be distracted by the phone, do not try to translate the topic. Do not ignore what has happened or repel a person. He is much worse at this moment, and therefore it is important to stay close. Common phrases. They sound strange, but in the moment they are very appropriate. “Don’t worry, next time everything will turn out”, “It happens, it’s not scary” – this is what really helps. But just don’t have to continue them and tell stories how someone else had the same problems. Statistics that may be remembered will not help either. Just general words of support, that’s enough. Take a break. When something has already been said, some understanding has been reached, it is necessary to switch attention. It’s easiest to fall asleep if it happens at night. You can drink to distract and talk heart to heart. Sometimes it is not superfluous to have a bite. Any activity not related to sex would be appropriate. Try it again. But at another time. Ideally – in the morning, when physiologically a man has an erection. You can at the next meeting. But it is important to warm up interest in each other, to arrange an exciting date. It will be appropriate for the girl to put on stockings and beautiful underwear to make her partner even stronger. It is important to prove to himself that everything is in order with him, and past experience is an accident.
What can not be done when he does not get up
The lack of an erection is a tragedy for a man. He is afraid of this situation, and often himself does not know how to react to it. And it is important not to make mistakes at such a moment. There are things that you can’t do:
- Laugh. Even if these are nervous laughs, it is important to suppress them. Such a reaction is completely inappropriate, it will cause resentment or even psychological trauma.
- Tell stories. Comic or serious about other people is not worth it. It is not recommended to recall any jokes on this subject. It is unlikely that he wants to hear something about the sexual capabilities of someone else.
- To run away. Even if you know little, even if this meeting is only for the sake of sex, it is still important to support it. It takes 10-30 minutes to communicate in order to smooth out the negative. You can leave only if the man behaves aggressively.
- Blame the man. Such behavior is rare, it is characteristic of not very prosperous couples. The phrases: “all this is because you are thumping” or “this is because you are cheating on me” do not facilitate communication, but only exacerbate what is happening.
In society, it is generally accepted that a man is less prone to the manifestation of emotions. But if he does not express them, does not mean that he does not feel. And if there was a delicate situation, you need to try to find a way out of it that will suit both.