Sex is generally a rather mythological sphere of life. And this is logical: what is not customary to discuss is overgrown with speculation.
But, if some “myths” are not very stable and depend only on personal experience (someone believes in squirt, for example, and someone does not), then others are accepted on faith by almost everyone and even seem to have a scientific basis. Here we will deal with them. Maria Selikhova, obstetrician-gynecologist, endocrinologist of the Institute of Reproductive Medicine REMEDI, and Victoria Bastrykina, trainer of the Secrets Family and Sex Education Center, will help us distinguish the truth from fiction .
Myth 1.
Most women are not capable of vaginal orgasm.
It is a myth.
On the contrary, most women are capable of vaginal orgasm. Not all, however, are from an early youth. For many, vaginal orgasm occurs after 30 years, earlier – for those who have experienced pregnancy and childbirth. And it is not so important, natural childbirth or by cesarean section. This is due to the activity of the gonads, the activity of the receptor apparatus. But if there were ruptures of the perineum, vagina, episiotomy with childbirth in the childbirth, then, perhaps, trauma to the branches of the genital nerve has occurred – in such women sensitivity in the vagina is generally reduced. You have to consult a doctor with this problem.
Myth 2.
Any woman can be brought to orgasm if sex lasts long enough
It is a myth.
The average duration of sexual intercourse is five minutes. However, according to the results of a study by one of the British sex shops, men indicated the desired duration of sex at 20 minutes, and women admitted that ideal sex should last about 15 minutes. That is, women of pure sex (with penetration) need less than men! What is fraught with long sex? Firstly, the excitement can be at its peak not infinitely long and gradually disappears; secondly, long sex can be traumatic if you do not use additional lubricant; and thirdly, if you two work for ten, how much will stay there after a two-hour marathon?
About the technique of sex
Myth 3.
Oysters (chocolate, strawberries) and other aphrodisiacs increase libido
It is a myth.
Maria Selikhova: The myth arose because of the human tendency to confuse cause and effect. As a rule, oysters, chocolate, strawberries and other gastronomic joys are an attribute of a love date. When there is a corresponding mood, an object of desire, the libido rises. Aphrodisiacs work on this principle . If you, sitting at a computer and making tables in Excel, eat strawberries or chocolate bar, then you are unlikely to feel a surge of sexual desires. Even if aphrodisiacs are regularly consumed in small amounts, sexual activity is unlikely to intensify.
Myth 4.
There are certain poses that increase (decrease) the probability of conception
It’s true!
Victoria Bastrykina:
This question worries those who want but cannot get pregnant, and those who can, but are afraid. So, the truth is that poses that increase or decrease the likelihood of conception exist. But they do not make this probability zero or one hundred percent. For example, a standing pose or a rider reduces the chances of pregnancy: the fault is gravity, which causes sperm to drain down to the exit of the vagina. But the sperm are quite nimble, and if one of them decided to get to the cervix, he will do it from any position.
Maria Selikhova: In case of problems with conception, it is very important that the cervix is moistened with sperm and remains in this state for at least 30 minutes after intercourse. Therefore, in order for pregnancy planning to end with its onset, it is important to use horizontal positions. And even more important (for a woman) is to remain in a horizontal position for at least another 20-30 minutes after sexual intercourse. No need to take fancy poses (“birch”, for example). You just have to lie down. Better yet, sleep!
Myth 5.
The first time is always painful
It is a myth
Victoria Bastrykina: It shouldn’t hurt during sex at all, unless you practice BDSM. Myths about the pain of the first sexual intercourse originate from fairy tales about the hymen, which must be torn during the first sex (and present bloodied sheets to relatives). In fact, the hymen appears to be a crown rather than a solid partition (there is a hole in it, and it is quite extensible), and the first sex is part of sexual experience, and not sacrifice. The first sex can do without blood and pain if the girl is ready emotionally and physically excited, and the partner is neat.
Myth 6.
Size doesn’t matter
It’s true!
Maria Selikhova: At least for a female orgasm, the size of the genitals is not particularly important. Many “points”, the stimulation of which can contribute to orgasm, are either in the lower part of the vagina, or even on the surface of the vulva. The most important thing in achieving a sense of sexual satisfaction is the harmony of partners, understanding the body of a partner or partner. If a man knows and pays attention to certain areas in an intimate relationship, then the woman will get her orgasm, regardless of the initial physical parameters.
Almost scientific evidence
Myth 7.
The peak of male sexuality is 16-18 years old, and female 30-35 years old
It’s true!
Maria Selikhova: There is a certain category of people who, by their own nature, are sexual in nature.
They maintain their sexual attractiveness and activity throughout life, starting from adolescence. Another category of people (and most of them) has peaks of sexuality: men – 16-18 years old, women – 30-35 years old. This is due to the activity of the glands that produce sex hormones, and to the activity of receptors for these hormones. The question arises, but how then to live with peers? Just remember that in highly developed organisms (in humans, for example), the level of sexual desire is more dependent on the psycho-emotional state, on sympathy, mutual understanding and respect, rather than on hormones. So if there is love, emotional attachment, then all the peaks of sexuality are not critical.
Myth 8.
Sex before the competition reduces the performance of athletes
That … may be true
Maria Selikhova: It is known that before the competition athletes are recommended to abstinence. But I have not seen clinical studies in this regard. As an obstetrician-gynecologist, I can assume that in order to achieve certain sports results in competitions, athletes require a certain amount of aggression. And if a person is physically and psycho-emotionally satisfied, then there will be no surge in aggression, and the result can not be obtained.