“But still in this first fall there was something special and touching. I remember, at once , in the same place, without leaving the room, it became sad, sad so that I wanted to cry, cry about the death of my innocence, about the eternally ruined attitude towards a woman. Yes, a natural, simple attitude towards a woman was destroyed forever. Since then I have never had and could not have had a pure relation to a woman. ” L.N. Tolstoy, Kreutzer’s Sonata.
I recalled this moment because I caught the eye of the note “A prostitute in the public service”. The supposedly well-deserved prostitute of Vienna deals only with virgins, as if preventing unwanted and inept sexual contacts and thereby reducing the likelihood of illness (primarily AIDS).
The loss of virginity does not always go away without traumatic consequences. How to make the first sexual contact pleasant and safe? On the one hand, there is an impeccable solution: virginity on both sides before the wedding – and more! And how do you assess this situation: my friend told me how it was with her: “I didn’t know when all this would finally happen. He didn’t succeed, he couldn’t get in! ”About inflammation after the first sexual intercourse just after the wedding, there is nothing to say! Nemereno! Just no statistics.
In fiction (both ancient and modern), situations with an interesting solution have been repeatedly described.
For example, Stefan Zweig in The Legend of the Twin Sisters. One sister is a model of piety, the second is a libertine. For a long time they were in a quarrel, but the libertine intended to convert a pious Christian into her faith. After long preparations, she arranges a date for her sister with her lover, who is ordered to seduce the virgin. The final events are described as follows:
“Annoyed, even angry that the young man did not give her the slightest reason to prove to her sister that she was impregnable and give free rein to righteous anger, she finally went to meet the danger herself.
Unbeknownst to how and from where she suddenly found fun, she began to laugh out loud, swaying and spinning in all directions, but she was neither ashamed nor scared – after all, before midnight it was not so far, the dagger was at hand, and this multi-flame youth was colder than a steel blade. Closer and closer she moved toward him in the hope that at last she would have the opportunity to triumphantly uphold her virtue; unwittingly herself, the God-fearing Sophia, consumed by ambition, was sophisticated in the art of seduction exactly as she did, for the sake of purely earthly blessings, her adulterer – sister.
But a wise saying says that if you even touch the hair in the beard of the devil, he will certainly cling to your scruff. So in the heat of the competition happened with Sofia. From wine flavored with a dope without her knowledge, from smoking incense, from the sweet-languishing sounds of a flute, her thoughts began to get confused. Speech turned into slurred babble, laughter into piercing laughter, and not a single doctor of medicine, not a single lawyer could prove before the court whether this happened to her in a dream or in reality, in a drunkenness or in firm memory, with her consent or in spite of her will, but one way or another – long before midnight, what happened, at the behest of God or his rival, happened sooner or later between a woman and a man.
A hidden dagger fell from the disturbed folds of clothes with a ringing on the marble slabs of the floor, but it was strange: the tired righteous woman did not pick it up, did not stick it into the chest of the impudent young man ; neither crying nor the noise of the struggle came to Elena’s ears. “
After that, the sisters sold their caresses to everyone – now for a couple.
This is not a very moral case. But in Long in Daphnis and Chloe, everything was much more decent, although the ending was the same – the loss of virginity.
“thirteen. Sheep herds were bleached; the lambs jumped, crawling under the queens, and pulled by the nipples. And the sheep, who had not yet given birth, were chased by rams, climbed from behind behind them, each choosing one for himself. And the goats chased the goats and jumped on them with love and fought for the goats; each had their own, and each guarded them, so that somehow the other goat would secretly not contact them. Even old people, if they had happened to see this, would be prompted by such a sight to affairs of love . And even more so – Daphnis and Chloe, young, flowering and long sought after the pleasures of love: they became inflamed, hearing all this, thinned, seeing this, and they themselves were looking for something better than kisses and hugs – especially Daphnis. During the winter, sitting at home without any work, he matured; therefore, he was eager for kisses and longed for hugs, and in everything became much bolder and more determined.
14. So he began to ask that Chloe yield to him in what he desired: she would lie with him naked longer with him than she did before. “After all, this is one thing, ” he said, “it remains, which we did not fulfill from the advice of Fillet. Probably the only means here is that it will calm our love. ” When she asked the question, what is there more than kissing, hugging and lying together, and what else did he plan to do, if they, both naked, lay together, he answered her: “The same as sheep and sheep and goats with goats. Do you not see that after the work is done, the sheep and goats do not flee from them, and they do not languish, chasing after them, but, as if tasting the delights, graze together. Apparently, this business is sweet and defeats the bitterness of love. ” “But don’t you see, Daphnis, that goats and goats, and sheep and sheep do all this while standing, and goats and sheep, also standing, accept them. They jump on them, they put their back on them. And you want me to lie down with you, and even naked, look, because their wool is much denser than my clothes. ” Daphnis obeyed and lay down with her for a long time, but, unable to do what he was passionately striving for, he picked her up and hugged her from behind, clinging to her, imitating the goats. And, even more embarrassed, he sat up and cried: is he really even more stupid than sheep in affairs of love? ”
About twenty years ago, when perestroika began, light erotica was launched through cable channels. A couple of films I remember. One of them was devoted to sex lessons at school. It was a comedy in which the authors parodied the approach to sexuality education.
The second film was more serious: mom began to suspect that her growing son was inclined to homosexuality, and decided to break it. She hired a prostitute, passed her off as her friend. And this “friend” was instructed to look after her son (so that he would not do anything) during her absence. She herself allegedly left on business, whether for a day or two. “Friend” in a timely manner completed the task set by a caring mother: she turned the boy into a man. But the idea of the film, apparently, was different: this sexual contact led to the fact that the boy fell in love with his seductress (or seducer?). And the prostitute was impressed by his love, but (goat clearly) it was a dead end. I don’t remember how it all ended ( no doubt about the reorientation of the young man safely ).
So there is something in the idea of attracting prostitutes to turning young men into men, so to speak, legally. True, it is unclear what to do with the girls!
We can add that the reason for the transition of men from women to women (as well as women from men to men) may be the search for a more skilled, more experienced partner. You need to study, study and study!
PS As for the article about a professional prostitute in the civil service – there are big doubts about the veracity of this material. I suspect that it was written and printed to raise the rating of the Express Newspaper: on the Web, which is usually very eager to pick up this kind of material, almost no website copied this article.