Put down the sandwich! Yes, yes, I’m telling you! And move the cup of coffee away … Today we have a difficult and responsible day. World Day of Confession. No, not official. Yes, I proclaimed it. Humble yourself. You do not want? And it will have to.
Once you are reading this article, you will not be able to turn away. Don’t want to confess in public? Then isolate yourself and…
Today, as a guest confessor, we have a psychologist-sexologist and TikTok star Maria Shelkova, the author of the “Shadows of Sex” project, which undertakes to “treat your libido and nerves.”
Today you will be asked 2 questions that will forever change your sex life.
Question 1. Do you want yourself 24/7?
Question 2. What needs to be done to make you want to?
… For half a day, these two specific, tough rhetorical phrases sounded in me: “Would I prefer myself, such as I am, as a partner?” I shake my head.
But I expect others to love me, to aspire to me, but I am not interested in myself … Maybe it’s just me. How do others rate themselves?
Uncomfortable Answers
The survey showed that neither men nor women recognized themselves as truly attractive. Moreover, it is interesting that neither age nor excellent external data (and here there were written handsome men and conquerors of hearts, super beauties from those for which men turn the car around and drive in a completely different direction, destroy the family, put everything at their feet) did not give a positive result. .
It would seem that youth should be proud of its freshness and good shape. But no, the most slender, amazingly interesting people have always sincerely found a flaw in themselves.
Unattractive Syndrome
It is believed that men often have inflated self-esteem, and where a slender woman finds a defect in her figure, a man will rather look at his camp, which is far from perfect. Yes, this is true in many ways, but it was interesting to hear from a person who lived for many years with the words: “All people are like people, and I’m just handsome,” a confession: that at 20 and 40 I was not completely satisfied with myself (and this with a cinematic appearance, great success with the opposite sex).
This means that the recognition of people does not make you desirable, does not give us the right to think that we are very “delicious as partners”
What prevents us from considering ourselves interesting?
Our face. The principle of “under” or “too”
The lack of a flawless face, as we imagine it (for a woman), and at least a little attractiveness (for a man), and everything about us: curly or straight hair, a large or small nose – makes us dissatisfied even with what seemed to be possible just admire. Then we say: “too much”, announcing the verdict on full lips, and big eyes, and fair skin, and an impeccably beautiful face.
You have impossibly beautiful black eyes, did you know? Oh yes, I forgot, too lovely. This is definitely a downside…
Our body. Alas, not Apollo
You are slim, fit, you have an excellent posture … Your figure is envied. But you are not happy with that either.
There are your personal “90-60-90” milestones, completely consciously unattainable, which will allow us to consider ourselves worthy of the most stringent requirements. And women torment themselves with diets, and men sigh philosophically, looking at the scales, and go to the kitchen …
What long, slender legs you have! Yes, yes, I remember too slim.
We open the dressing room. Where is my Cardin?
Clothes… And here again women are ahead of the rest. It is clear that the level of requirements for the appearance of women is very high … Everyone knows how she should behave, how to dress, how to take care of herself. And it is extremely difficult to reach this high, someone set bar. Therefore, the normal state of a woman is to be dissatisfied with herself.
It seems easier for men: a gentleman’s set and that’s it. But over the years, the level of requirements for men’s wardrobe has also grown significantly. Have to match.
social status. Why am I not Nagiyev?
Men are more depressed here: I would like luxurious conditions, brilliant successes, a career, a high position … And without all this, everything else seems not so important, even if a man has a complete package for well-being: a beloved woman, children, health, an apartment ..
Women usually have a simpler attitude to this, but they are also haunted by the fact that the other has a prettier blouse, a bigger house, smarter children, more authoritative husband.
Age restrictions. For those who…..
Too young… Too old (it’s 40 years old)… I wish you were 18… Society has created age stereotypes, and we can’t get into that wonderful age when desires coincide with opportunities.
How many are on your watch? It’s time to live.
What to do to become interesting?
We are all pathologically dissatisfied with what we have. Conditions, appearance may improve, but we are all still not good for ourselves.
Yes, not perfect, but you can still get closer to your best shape.
Not happy with your face? Modern cosmetology will improve the source material.
Does the figure fail? Diet and gyms are waiting for you.
Clothes, status leave much to be desired? Don’t sit on the couch. Build your universe and everything will come.
Does age bother you? You are in vain. If you are 18, then there is no better time for dreams, the whole world is open: choose. Are you over 40? A wonderful age: you are liberated, experienced and have resources …
Debriefing
The day is over. The aftertaste faded from the sharp questions. “Do I need to change my sex life?” I thought. “Yes, these changes will bring external well-being, but will it make me happier.” If you answered “Yes” to this question, start moving towards your ideal self.