You can say (and even believe) that your sex cannot be spoiled. But sooner or later you will notice that sex itself happens less often, and orgasms are weaker, and in general everything is somehow wrong. This is all because of them!
Extraneous thoughts
“At work blockage”, “repairs need to be done”, “unwashed dishes” – all this makes it very difficult to focus on sensations. The golden rule of good sex is to think only of intimacy. If it is not easy to part with disturbing thoughts, then try to use the special technique of “turning off the head”. We talk about it in detail at the training “Awakening of a female orgasm”. Its essence: you choose a special exciting phrase for yourself and imagine it for 21 days, while relaxing and not thinking about problems and concerns. In 21 days of this practice, you will learn to disconnect your head from unnecessary and disturbing thoughts during sex.
Rejection of one’s own body
Non-acceptance of one’s own appearance negatively affects sexual desire and the quality of sex. It may seem to you that due to body imperfections you are not sexually attracted to a partner. And this on a subconscious level reduces your interest in sex. Thinking about the imperfections of the body, you do not relax and thereby repel the partner. He simply does not understand the reason for your constriction and may decide that the problem is in him. Often, we ourselves come up with complexes associated with the body. Think, if the partner has sex with you, then he wants you and accepts your body. And everything that you consider to be “defects” of the body, perhaps only your own inventions.
Hunger
If you are on a diet (most likely due to rejection of your own body), then you only think about food – and from these extraneous thoughts you will not be saved by any disconnection of the head: this is physiology. If the body feels that food is not enough even for himself, then he will never engage in procreation.
Laziness
Of course, both of you are tired – and everyone just wants to relax and have fun.
Therefore, you both lie and wait for the initiative from the partner. This is an extreme case. And it’s too lazy to experiment – this leads to sexual uniformity. Do not stop experimenting and exploring each other. Experiments are new emotions and vivid sensations. Too lazy to improve one’s sexual skills leads to unpleasant sensations during contact and can completely discourage interest in sexual experiments. Therefore, do not be lazy to work on mistakes, discuss them with a partner and improve your sexual skills.
High expectations
The idealization of sex in films, the stories of friends about magical sexual experiences – all this builds up high expectations from sex. You have a perfect sex scenario in your head. But at some point you realize that everything is going wrong. It starts to upset you or even make you angry – and orgasm fails. Be spontaneous, listen to your body and feel your partner. After giving up idealized ideas, you and your partner will be able to create your own sexual tale.
Computer
Online games and social networks are so addictive that when you get to bed, you only have a couple of hours to sleep. Alas, this is the scourge of our time. There is no other way to fight, besides turning off the monitor.
Rush
Sometimes quick sex in a fit of passion is a good way to warm up relationships. But you can’t translate it on a regular basis. Trying to do everything quickly, you will not be able to properly enjoy the process and experience an orgasm. In order to achieve orgasm, a woman needs to be thoroughly aroused. The body needs time to respond to affection.
Physiological problems
Physiological malfunctions can also spoil sex, for example, unexpected problems with an erection in a man. For such cases, keep special sexy cosmetics and sex toys in your bedside table: stimulating lubricant, erection ring, vaginal balls – all this will be your helpers in sexual life.